How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

I'm still on a parenting books kick. This book "How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish has been my favorite parenting book yet (I still love the love languages book but this book dives deeper in to the actual parenting techniques). This book was written as a workbook which I've never seen before.

I found it VERY useful. It has simulation activities and space for you to write you reactions in certain situations. It gives you time to ponder what you would do and shows you the best way to react to your child. It's loaded with other parents' stories of what worked and what didn't.

"The whole world will tell them what's wrong with them–loud and often. It's our job to let our children know what's right about them."

I found that quote nicely summed up the main idea presented in this book. The book teaches positive parenting–reinforcing positive behavior. The authors want you to talk to your children and sympathize with their feelings. They don't believe in yelling, spanking, or even time-out. They simply state that if you parent with love and actually listen to your child, it will give the child independence to be their own person and in turn will teach the child a great respect for you as a parent. They give several great techniques throughout the book that teaches you to speak and listen to your children appropriately. I love the idea and I'll be purchasing this book once Everly gets a little older and re-reading it for sure! When I was a kid I never responded well to yelling or any upset behavior. I like the idea of teaching your children feelings and helping them learn to express their feelings. I also like their method of discipline that actually helps the child realize why their behavior is unacceptable without any large punishment. I could go on and on about each idea in this book but the main point is I defiantly want to use this parenting style in my life with my children.